My Services
Individual Counselling, Couples Counselling, Discernment Counselling and Supervision in Ashford, Kent and Online
Individual Therapy & Personal Support
One-to-One Counselling for Adults and Teenagers aged 11 and over
I work with the simple belief that everyone has the inner strength to grow, heal, and find their way back to a fulfilling life. My background covers a wide age range—supporting teenagers (from age 11) and adults when life feels overwhelming or hard to navigate.
Therapy relies on a reliable sense of trust. Together, we will create a quiet space where you feel accepted exactly as you are, making it comfortable to share what is on your mind and talk through how you are feeling at your own pace.
I have extensive experience supporting people through bereavement, grief, and that heavy loss of identity that often happens during big life transitions. No matter how unsettling things feel right now, we will walk side by side, looking at what you are going through in a way that feels completely secure for you.
A Safe Space for Your Life Changes and Relationships
Life can bring complex personal challenges that leave us feeling disconnected or unsure of who we are. I provide a warm, steady space to help you untangle relationship difficulties, family tensions, or low self-esteem. Whatever is causing you distress, we will look at it together with kindness and without a single ounce of judgement.
This soft, down-to-earth approach is also wonderfully suited for teenagers as they face the pressures of growing up today. Young people often carry a heavy weight—whether it is school stress, friendship anxieties, low mood, or overwhelming emotions they cannot quite explain. I offer a comforting, quiet environment where they can talk openly, feel deeply understood, and slowly build their own inner resilience.
I provide this warm, friendly and professional service with flexible appointments to fit around your life. Everything is designed to feel welcoming from the moment you arrive, offering a safe, comfortable environment with the ease of on-drive parking.
Taking Your Next Step
Beginning therapy is a deeply personal choice, and it is completely natural to feel a little hesitant before reaching out. When you feel ready to connect, please get in touch using the contact form or call me directly.
We can step straight into your first full session together, or begin with an optional, free 15-minute phone chat to talk through what you need and simply see how we get along.
I offer a warm, friendly and professional service with flexible appointments in a safe and comfortable space with on-drive parking.
Couples Counselling & Relationship Support
Collaborative Support for Partners in Ashford, Kent & Online
It takes a lot of courage to seek support when your relationship feels stuck or distant. It is incredibly common to feel isolated or disconnected from each other, even when sharing the same home. Whether you are caught in repetitive arguments, facing a loss of connection, or adjusting to a major life change, my goal is to help you and your partner find a meaningful way forward together.
While couples work follows a more structured framework than individual therapy, we will always move at a pace that feels completely right for your unique relationship.
A specialised Approach to Relationship Growth
I received my specialist couples training in Greenwich, focusing on the Developmental Model of Couple Counselling pioneered by Drs Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson.
At the heart of this supportive model is a key concept called differentiation. This is simply the ongoing process of learning how to express your own personal truths, needs, and individuality, while simultaneously growing and deepening your bond as a couple.
Grounded in this compassionate approach, I will help both of you safely move beyond tense, reactive patterns. Together, we will work on building a secure relationship where there is room to share honest feelings, disagree without disaster, and ensure you both feel deeply heard, accepted, and supported.
Common Relationship Struggles I Work With
I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to explore difficulties such as:
- Communication Obstacles: Misunderstandings, constant tension, and escalating arguments.
- Emotional Stress: Overwhelming feelings of resentment, anger, or distance within the home.
- Broken Trust: Navigating the pain of infidelity, a lack of trust, or a loss of connection.
- Intimacy Concerns: Exploring a lack of physical intimacy and sexual discontent safely.
- External Pressures: Strains from extended family dynamics, parenting styles, or how outside stress impacts your life together.
How Therapy Can Support Your Relationship
By working together in a safe, trusting environment, you can expect to:
- Build Communication Skills: Learn effective ways to speak and listen without triggering conflict.
- Value Your Differences: Find healthy ways to resolve disagreements while respecting each other.
- Rediscover Your Strengths: Recognise and rebuild the unique love that already exists between you.
- Turn Difficulties into Growth: Gain deep insight into your struggles and use them to grow closer.
Remember what it means to be the listener. You don't react to what you're hearing.
Just keep breathing, postpone your own agenda, and concentrate on your partner.
- Dr. John Gottman
Discernment Counselling
Clarity and Confidence When You Are Unsure of Your Future Together
Taking the step to reach out can feel like a massive moment, especially if you or your partner are facing deep uncertainty about your future together. While traditional couples therapy assumes both people are fully committed to working on the relationship, Discernment Counselling recognises that one partner is often leaning out of the relationship while the other is leaning in. Please be assured that each perspective is completely honoured and respected here.
The Goal of Our Discernment Sessions
The path of this work is not to solve your relationship problems right away, but rather to find out if they can potentially be solved. I will fully respect your reasons for considering separation, while gently holding space for the possibility of working on your relationship.
To ensure both of you feel completely secure and heard, our time together is structured uniquely:
- Time Together: We spend time with you both in the room to understand your shared dynamics.
- Individual Conversations: We hold private, one-to-one conversations with each partner during the session.
- Deeper Understanding: We focus on helping each partner see their own contributions to both the problems and the potential solutions.
Gaining Clarity for Your Next Steps
This form of counselling is highly successful when people gain complete clarity and confidence in their decision, whatever that decision may be. From a deeper, more compassionate understanding of your relationship and its core patterns, you will be supported to choose one of three paths:
Path One: Leave the relationship exactly as it stands for now.
Path Two: Move towards a constructive separation or divorce, with deeper peace and mutual understanding.
Path Three: Commit to a dedicated six-month period of couples therapy, creating a safe breathing space to focus entirely on the relationship before making any final decisions.
For couples interested in my confidential services…
Please get in touch with me if you would like to discuss your needs or download a copy of each of my Terms and Conditions and Questionnaire. Once you and your partner have completed and returned these to me, they will help me understand a little more about your situation. I will then contact you to arrange an appointment to meet with you.
Are you going through a difficult situation in life that is causing you distress and need help? Are you looking to enhance your relationships? Do you need to talk to someone who will listen to you without judgment?
Clinical & Non-Clinical Supervision
Professional support for practitioners, trainees, and helping professionals in Ashford & Online
I offer both clinical and non-clinical supervision for qualified practitioners, trainees, and professionals working in demanding roles. My supervisory work deeply mirrors my approach to therapy: building an open, collaborative, and trusting alliance is invaluable to our work together.
My Diploma in Professional Supervision is built upon the Seven-Eyed Supervision Model of Hawkins & Shohet and incorporates Michael Carroll’s ‘Tasks of Supervision’ Model. Together, we can also choose to incorporate creativity into our sessions, moving safely beyond traditional spoken discussion.
I view supervision as open, supportive collaboration that empowers you, as a supervisee, to feel safe and emotionally contained within a trusting relationship. Our alliance will permit personal development and self-care, whilst gently influencing your wider professional relationships.
Contact Sally Cloke Counselling
Book a Free Consultation
Taking that very first step toward support can feel like a significant decision, and it is completely natural to feel a little hesitant before reaching out. Please feel free to call me on 07743 401350 or message me using the contact form below to arrange your free 15-minute phone chat.
What to Expect From Our Time Together
We can use this welcoming, unpressured space to simply:
· Gently chat about what you are experiencing and what brings you to counselling or supervision.
· Answer any questions you might have about how our sessions work.
· Look together at how we can best support your unique circumstances.
· See how it feels to talk together, and decide whether I am the right person to walk alongside you.
For more information on my services please view my terms and conditions and privacy policy.