My Services
Individual Counselling, Couples Counselling, Discernment Counselling and Supervision in Ashford, Kent and Online
Individual Counselling
As a counsellor, I truly believe that each of us has the power to grow and lead a happy, healthy, and fulfilling life. I like to work together to build safe and trusting relationships. We are born to be social, and connecting with others can be very powerful in shaping how we feel about ourselves.
I am passionate about helping you increase your self-awareness so you can make positive changes and live a more content life. I am also able to tailor my approach to suit your individual needs.
I understand how it feels to be heard and understood by someone who listens attentively and empathetically. Having our thoughts and feelings validated can be incredibly healing and soothing. That's why I provide a warm, welcoming, and confidential space where you can feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and emotions without fear of judgment.
I have experience working with people of all ages, including children, adolescents, and adults, who are dealing with various issues and difficulties. I am here to help you navigate life's challenges and provide support and guidance every step of the way.
Relationship challenges can cause unhappiness and lead to feelings of loneliness and sometimes isolation. I believe that we all have the power to make positive changes in our relationships. My goal is to support you and encourage you to take healthy and positive steps towards improving communication and restoring balance in your relationship. I'm here to listen and be with you every step of the way.
I have found anxiety and depression are common themes within my work and major life challenges, with symptoms far-reaching and impacting unhelpfully on many aspects of daily life. My approach is based upon building a relationship with you, where I am able to tailor my approach to your individual needs. I have worked with a wide age range and have experience working with bereavement, loss of role and identity as we move through life, relationship difficulties and stress.
Furthermore, I have a wealth of experience working with young people and have supported a range of difficulties including anxiety, anger, bullying, self-harm, low self-esteem, relationship issues, and friendship problems.
I offer a warm, friendly and professional service with flexible appointments in a safe and comfortable space with on-drive parking.
I intend to explore and progress your relationship, regardless of problems or other relationship distress, age, race, religious beliefs, gender identity, or sexual orientation. I will also help you recognise how the conflict in the relationship can be an indicator of potential personal growth.
Couples Counselling
I can help you in a range of ways enabling you to:
- Learn communication skills with your partner effectively to create curiosity and support rather than experiencing conflict
- Understand how to work towards solving conflict and valuing difference
- Recognise the strengths in your relationship
- Improve your relationship through gaining insight and awareness into your particular difficulties
- To see the problems within your relationship as an opportunity to gain a deeper understanding
- To understand how can you and your partner express your individuality while simultaneously supporting your relationship. This is the art of differentiation. Once you’ve passed through the “we” of the romantic stage, successful differentiation is the key to an authentic and fulfilling longer-term relationship
- Misunderstandings and tensions resulting from differences in viewpoints
- Experiencing a range of feelings, including; resentment, anger, and anxiety
- A lack of trust or loss of connection
- Lack of intimacy and sexual discontent
- Infidelity
- Difficulties arising with other family members
To confirm your booking, I require payment by Bacs or cash payment at least 24 hours before the session. If you have any questions or would like to book a session, please contact or email me.
Can Couples Counselling be helpful to you?
This confidential and understanding service provides you and your partner with a safe space to explore the difficult issues within your relationship.
For couples in a committed relationship, couple counselling can help to keep you on track, deepen your understanding of each other and lead to a more contented lifestyle.
Remember what it means to be the listener. You don't react to what you're hearing.
Just keep breathing, postpone your own agenda, and concentrate on your partner.
- Dr. John Gottman
Discernment Counselling
I can help individuals and couples decide whether to try to work on their marriage, to separate or decide later. The sessions are divided between spending time with each couple together and individual conversations with each spouse. Please be assured that I will respect the reasons for considering separation while trying to open up the possibility of working on the marriage. In addition to emphasising the importance of each seeing his or her contributions to the problems and the possible solutions.
The goal of Discernment Counselling is not to solve problems – but to see if they can potentially be solved. Some couples may decide to commit to Couple therapy. This provides an opportunity to gain clarity and confidence about which direction to take that is based on a deeper understanding of the relationship and its problems. This form of counselling is considered successful when people have clarity and confidence in their decision. Traditional marriage counselling assumes that both people are willing to work on the marriage; Discernment Counselling assumes that frequently one partner is “leaning out” of the marriage and the other partner is “leaning in.” Each perspective is honoured.
- Continue as the relationship stands;
- Move towards temporary or permanent separation
- To commit to working on the relationship for 3 to 6 months in couples counselling, following which a decision can be made to continue or separate.
For couples interested in my confidential services…
Please get in touch with me if you would like to discuss your needs or download a copy of each of my Terms and Conditions and Questionnaire. Once you and your partner have completed and returned these to me, they will help me understand a little more about your situation. I will then contact you to arrange an appointment to meet with you.
Are you going through a difficult situation in life that is causing you distress and need help? Are you looking to enhance your relationships? Do you need to talk to someone who will listen to you without judgment?
Supervision
My Diploma in Professional Supervision is based on the Seven-Eyed Supervision Model of Hawkins & Shohet and incorporates Michael Carroll’s ‘Tasks of Supervision’ Model.
I am experienced in providing clinical and non-clinical supervision and trained to work with groups and individuals. Together, we may also choose to incorporate creativity into our way of working together.
I view supervision as working openly and collaboratively, empowering you as a supervisee to feel safe and emotionally contained within a trusting relationship. Our alliance will permit the growth of ethical competence and nourish your personal development and self-care whilst influencing wider relationships.
My supervision work very much reflects my approach to counselling in that building a trusting relationship is invaluable to our work together. I have had experience working with trainee counsellors and qualified counsellors and facilitating group supervision within helping roles.
Supervision is also available online via Zoom.